Dating your daughter

08-Aug-2017 17:40

Psychologist Jo Lamble says, “many girls go through a bad boy phase. He dyed his hair blue, wore no tie and smoked under the stairs at the train station. And before you know it, a dreaded conversation looms over you and your daughter like a cloud of bum-puffed cigarette smoke. The baby girl who once asked you to help her put her seatbelt on. Everyone’s in for a ride but you can make it to your destination. Because before you ban this boofhead from your home, Lamble suggests, “invite him over - a lot. It's about your daughter's happiness, not whether you like him or not.” Most of the time, it’s because we’ve all been there. Most of us clearly remember having our hearts broken by a guy who was never good for us.” Because that’s when the real problem starts, right?

adds that "The age for dating is different [in] every family," and that much depends on a particular child's level of preparedeness.Mary Anne Locke, a godly friend of mine who raised two daughters, used to gently remind her girls, "The times when you find yourself looking for a boyfriend because you feel like you 'need' one are the seasons when you are actually furthest from being in a healthy place to date someone." Why?At those times, they were looking to date in order to feel more important, more accepted or more popular.It can be easy to think, , every encounter they have either lowers, maintains or raises their standard for what is acceptable with the opposite sex.

Establish a standard that emphasizes honor and respect.

High school is not the time for any experience to reach its pinnacle, according to Mary Anne. This is important for girls to understand because a relationship that develops too quickly often has a way of shrinking a teen's world rather than expanding it.

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